I got a text from a number that I didn’t recognize that said Hey Buddy. With all the spam texts I get from marketers, I just figured it was someone trying to sell me something. Then another text came through that said hey its Jordan. At first I was thinking someone was playing tricks on me because my son Jordan hadn’t talked to me in 20 years.
When I was younger and my kids were little I had what you would call a craving for alcohol and drugs. I spent my days working and my nights drinking and doing drugs. I did not pay much attention to my kids and I think they kind of resented me.
In 1994 I moved to Florida to get away from the drama of their mom who tried everything to make my life miserable. Low and behold a couple of weeks later to my surprise they showed up at my house in Florida. Seems my ex wife’s new boyfriends parents lived in the same town I moved to. To make my life miserable she had them stay with me for a while.
Don’t get me wrong I love my kids but she had them do everything she could to make things a living hell. I woke up the first morning and my ac was turned down to 60 and I was freezing. Then they started doing little things like leaving the hot water running, opening windows to let hot air in, just anything to annoy me. When I asked them why they said their mom told them too.
It took a toll on my wife and me and eventually we split up. At the time I thought it was the end of the world but it was really a blessing. I met my current wife and was never happier in my life. Then our families met and the fireworks began.
My kids and her kid clashed and this caused problems with us.I started drinking and doing drugs again real heavy and this kind of alienated me away from my kids. Eventually they moved back with their mother to NY and I only heard from them on occasion.
My oldest boy got in trouble for drinking and driving and went to prison. The middle boy called from time to time but eventually stopped and Jordan called a couple of times but also fizzled out. I write to the oldest boy in prison and never hear from the other 2 until Jordan texted me.
We texted and I called him and we talked for a few minutes. I will keep in contact with him and build a relationship with him because family is important. If you have a loved one you haven’t talked to in years, give them a call or even a text and start again fresh. I know I feel better knowing I can build a relationship with my son and eventually will try to patch things up with the other 2 boys.
We all do foolish things when we are young and regret it as we age. Take that first step to repair a broken relationship with someone who you have not seen in years or even if its only been a short time. Life is way to short to hold a grudge and we should take the time now to mend that broken relationship before we regret it later in life.
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